I am not sure if I am the only person ever asked (haha), but I do get a lot of friends looking for me when it comes to presents and gifting, especially if that receiver is a female, and in particular, a girl.
Recently, I was approached a couple of times to suggest birthday presents for others, friends of friends, whom I don't know. My own younger brother is turning 21 this mid-August, and I already got him a gift of sorts.
Being (long) passed that stage of 21, I think perhaps I should share what I got and a few gift ideas that I have offhand. They are all meant to be sweet and particularly meaningful (I hope), both for girls and guys. I am not the sweetest person around but be sure that if you are one of those who've received a gift from me before in your lifetime, I took at least 2 months to 6 months to think about it. =) So here are just a few pointers:
Don't worry about giving a key, cos the parents would have done that if it's a chalet party.
1) Know Thy Friend
Know your friend if you wish to create the eyes-wide-opened effect. To surprise the person, you will need to be extra observant in your normal outings, and take note of what the friend says.
When I am out with my good friends, and I hear something they say they want, I will go home and write it down on my notebook, so that when present day comes, I have a little list on hand to get the thing he/she WANTS.
Often, this will evoke the kind of "HOW did you KNOW I WANT this???" exclamation. hahaha. It's very nice when my friends give me this response. :D:D:D
2) Personalize - To Make It COUNT
A couple of guys have asked me why a girl always feels that the gift is about how much it costs, while they insist that it's the thought that counts. True? Wrong.
Girls do agree with guys that it's the THOUGHT that counts. But ask yourself, when you bought the gift, how long did you spend thinking what to buy? How long did you really shop for it? Did you personalize it? Did you write something to BRING OUT the meaning of it?
Don't have to kid yourself... ... If you didn't do all these, where is the so-called thought that you claim counts???
Like I've said... my gift items were thought of at least 2 months before. Sometimes I plan up to a year on what to buy. My gift will most definitely be personalized. They come with my own packaging, and the reason why I bought that. I make an entire gift concept, not just a gift, so that people FEEL that it is MY gift, not a plucked out of thin air thing to make do for the day.
3) Girls Like To Have MANY, Guys Like ONE BIG Gift
This is a general rule of thumb to follow. Needless for me to say, most people are aware that most guys are practical. So this means they will prefer something like one iPod, a watch, a good wallet, quality belt, tie, etc.
While girls like the IDEA of having 21 sweet small cupcakes, 21 keychains, 21 flowers, something like that. It doesn't matters the price and size, it matters the amount.
So unless you can really afford it, getting a branded bag will burn a whole in the pocket because one branded bag doesn't FEELS as good as 21 keychains. To be honest, which one has more thought and which one is sweeter??? Right... think you get the drift.
On to actual gifts:
The One I Remember From My 21st Birthday
My favourite was a clorets-size Godiva chocolate (which I know costs about $12), with a cartoon character aluminium helium-air balloon tied to the Godiva paper bag. Inside also contains a 5cm x 5cm notebook with the happiest moments of my friend (female) and I together, illustrated over quite many pages.
Total cost: ~$30-40. Looks is ultra small.
BUT I remember it better than other more costly ones. Thoughts is 1001%.
My Presents:
1) A friend of mine likes elephants, and is really sporty, so I got a her a nice elephant t-shirt which I know is practical for her to wear for her sport activities.
2) A Little Miss Sunshine t-shirt that a friend said she was looking high and low for. I rolled up the shirt and tucked it into the "pencil holder" of a Baby Tasmanian Devil soft toy holding the pencil holder.
Her favourite character is the Baby Tasmania, other than Snoopy and Mickey. It was meant to be the packaging for the t-shirt, but I made it count by getting the packaging in something she likes. haha, ended up she liked the soft toy more than the shirt! LOL.
3) The Body Shop Cassis Rose EDT for farewell to an ex-colleague because she said her current in-the-handbag bottle is running low, and took it out to show me months before. On that day, she had totally forgotten she ever said anything, and was wondering how I knew she was about to buy that. hehehe, so happy!
4) A pair of MiniBits earrings that are mismatched, with a musical note on one side and piano on the other. My friend said she wanted to learn a musical instrument, and said she is super in love with musical notes and wanted a earring.
5) My first Valentine's Day gift consisted of about 6 items. One of them is a translucent "toolbox" filled with different types of heart-shape chocolates just to bury the real gift, which was a watch. On top of the heart chocolate "burial", I put two mini-pooh soft toys, one Pooh Bear and one Tigger, as Tiger is the year of that receiver.
I sealed the box by tying it up with 3 hankerchieves (this guy uses hankerchief), and pinned alphabet badges onto the hankerchieves spelling out our initials.
This concept was quite draining on me. But it did its work! hahahaha. The receiver told me he never thought there would be a watch underneath all the soft toys and chocolates.
6) Another Valentine's Day gift is a Starbucks transparent cup with handmade roses tied onto the straw and folded hearts strewn inside the cup, like a rose garden.
7) My bro is entering Uni this year, and I thought that before he enters, he should "upgrade" some personal belongings. His wallet is 3-4 years old, and he did told me he wanted to buy one for himself. I bought it for him. =)
Bought a pencil case for him as well and belts, as he will not be wearing uniform anymore. =)
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So you see, apart from observing the friend over time, it also matters the timing of the gift. For 21 year-olds, it's always about celebrating the coming of age, of growing up, doing things non-"adults" don't do.
So for girls, it may be putting on makeup, using proper skincare, using perfume, wearing more sophisticated accessories (gold, silver earrings and crystal necklaces). Wearing a certain different style of clothes... ... If you know your friend's size, may like to get her a more grown up one-piece dress (since white blouse and pants are a lot more difficult to buy without trying). Or perhaps a more grow-up style casual bag... ...
hmmmm, I think offhand, this is about what I can think of. haha, I hope it does inspire some of you to personalize the gift or it does help you in choosing your next gift!
PS: Not sure if there is still anyone reading after I got disconnected for so long, but I'd love to hear your comments/questions/feedback! Thanks a lot for reading through yet another text-filled (informative I hope) post of mine.
I also don't mean to share more what I give in that to show I give more or more expensive things etc. But my birthdays have always been internally celebrated for so many years of my life that I do not have many 1001% thoughtful gifts from friends to share with you about.
I know that some guys are diabetic when it comes to gift, so girls out there, share your own experiences! =)))